10 Things you should NEVER say to your lover

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Sometimes silence is golden, but sometimes there are
things that need to be said. Its best to think before
you speak.
The last thing you’d want is for your partner to dump
you over something you didn’t even mean to say.
‘Are you really going to walk out dressed like that?’
If it’s mine then chances are I like it. There’s already
so much pressure for girls to look flawless and picture
perfect.
So, she doesn’t need to be told by you that she’s not
meeting the standards.
She bought that item of clothing because she liked it-
she feels good in it. Unless you have the money to
buy a new wardrobe for her then maybe you should
keep your comments to yourself and love her for who
she is not what she wears.
‘Babe, let’s hit the gym’
This one reminds me of a song by Ruben Studdard
that goes: “Why you wanna change me, flip all the
things that really make me the way that I am…you
used to like your big old teddy bear…”
If you met in the Burger King queue and he/she told
you about their love for junk foods then don’t expect
him/her to become a vegan now that you’re dating.
You can only bring up the gym idea if you notice that
your partner has gained some weight and it’s having
an impact on their health. And even then, be tactful
about it.
Everyone is insecure about their body image and the
last thing you’d want to do is hurt your lover’s
feelings.
‘If I tell you, you have to promise not to tell anyone
else!’
Nobody likes a Gossiping Gertrude unless of course
Gertrude is your close friend who enjoys gossip just
as much as you do. Don’t fill the silence with gossip.
If you find that you have nothing to say to each other
maybe you should have a make-out session or call it a
night and go to sleep.
If word gets out and the trail leads back to you guys,
it could get you into serious trouble and may even
hamper your relationship.
‘My ex did the exact same thing’
If you’re looking for an express ticket to Dumpville,
then, yeah, bring up your ex. The only time your
partner wants to hear about your ex is NEVER.
It’s not nice being compared to someone even if they
were a complete douchebag and you’re just this ball of
amazingness.
It shows that you still think about your ex and maybe
aren’t over him/her. Your ex is old news and it’s time
to focus on what’s right in front of you.
‘This song reminds me of my ex’
Again, ex-stories are a no go area. Think before you
talk, even if it’s something as simple as a song, movie
or a joke. Some things are better left unsaid.
‘Nothing’s wrong. I’m fine’
Girls are guilty of saying this. We say it but we don’t
mean it. It’s actually our way of saying “my world is
falling apart and I just need you to hold me and tell
me that everything will be fine” or “I’m so mad at you
right now.”
If you’re guilty of doing this – stop it! Your partner
can’t read your mind. In a relationship, communication
is very important.
You need to verbalise your thoughts instead of
harboring them. If you don’t, you might just end up
exploding at your partner and then start bringing up
unattended issues from three years ago.
If something is bothering you rather deal with it right
there and then.
‘If you really love me…’
A relationship should not have terms and conditions,
that’s what your job is for. If your partner uses this
line to try guilt trip you into doing something, then
please do yourself a favour and dump that loser.
It is a mild form of manipulation and actually shows
weakness. If you would like your partner to do
something for you just ask them, chances are they’ll
say yes anyways, and if they don’t, you’ll just have to
accept that.
‘Just chill- you’re overreacting’
“Telling a girl to calm down works about as well as
trying to baptize a cat”- @BroCulture (twitter)
In other words, she will not calm down. Girls are
sensitive and take a lot of the things guys say to
heart.
From the guy’s perspective it probably isn’t even
coming from a hurtful place, maybe she is being over
the top and does need to take a chill pill; but try
finding a more diplomatic way of telling her to calm
down.
‘Babe stop being so insecure, he/she is just a friend’
If your partner voices out their concern about you
spending too much time with a friend of the opposite
sex or being too friendly with them, respect their
worry and maybe cut down just a little on your over-
friendliness.
Your partner will notice and it will mean a lot. So,
instead of being a little insensitive rather reassure
your partner about the true love you have for them.
‘You’re always too busy for me’
Unless your partner spends 25 hours a day at work or
with his friends or anywhere away from you, then
don’t say this. It comes across as needy and as if you
have nothing going on in your life. Remember, your
partner is an individual, not an extension of you.

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