My boyfriend has never commented on my looks… should I be bothered?

He has never ever voiced out what he thinks about my
appearance; whether to say I look beautiful or ugly.
Each time I ask him, he would talk about something
else instead.

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My name is Fola, I am 25 years old and I’m in a
relationship with a 27-year-old guy I met six years ago
while we were still studying at the same university. In
all our years of dating, not once has my boyfriend
commented on my looks.
He has never ever voiced out what he thinks about my
appearance; whether to say I look beautiful or ugly.
Each time I ask him, he would talk about something
else instead. I know this may sound like a minor issue,
but it’s taking a toll on my self-esteem. Do I look so
horrible that he just can’t say it out loud? He tells me
he loves me, but I find it hard to believe at times.
Please how do I overcome this problem? Do you think
it’s something I should be bothered about or not?
Thanks!
Hi Fola,
I absolutely understand you dilemma. While this is not
exactly a major issue, it is however, disturbing. It is
very unusual to be with someone for so long and not
even have something to say about their appearance.
That said, I don’t think this really something you should
be seriously bothered about, especially if he loves you
and expresses it too.
I know your self-esteem is taking a blow from this, but
you have to realize that self-love is the best love. If you
love and appreciate yourself the way you are, it
wouldn’t matter much if your boyfriend is not gracious
enough to verbally acknowledge it. So long as he is not
being abusive and treats you well, then there is really
no cause for alarm.
Also, you should raise the topic with him one of these
days when he is in a pleasant mood and you two are
having a nice time. Ask him why he has never talked
about your appearance and listen intently to what he
has to say. Till then, be happy with who you are and
stay beautiful!
Over to you guys, do you have any advice for Fola? If
you do, kindly write it in the comments box and please,
let’s be kind and refrain from using harsh negative
words.

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