Before you can begin your journey into marital life, you
must have acquired some important skills to prepare
you and help you weather the storms that comes with
your new status.
Before you can be called a graduate in any field of
study, you must have gone through school and passed
the course in flying colours.
So also, before you can begin your journey into marital
life, you must have acquired some important skills to
prepare you and help you weather the storms that
comes with your new status.
Here are four important pieces of marriage advice that
you need to know before you say “I do”:
1. Emotional self-regulation: Little children often throw
tantrums, cry, or even hit their siblings. Adults, on
the other hand, mostly live their lives in the calm
zone. The good news is that adults who get overly
emotional, especially with anger, can learn how to
overcome their anger tendencies. If you find that
you raise your voice and get angry more than once
every several months (or get so angry that you say
and do hurtful things), you’ve got some important
learning to do.
2. Communication: Some of the qualities that are
essential to any marriage is talking tactfully,
especially when the issue is something that
distresses you and listening in a way that sustains
cooperation. Talking in a way that’s complaining,
critical, or otherwise hurtful will get you in serious
marriage trouble. Dismissing what your partner
says, negating what you hear with “but”, or ignoring
instead of digesting what you hear, is sure to cause
extreme marital problems.
3. Conflict resolution: All couples have differences no
matter how in love they are. Successful couples
know how to start with a “his-way” and a “her-way”
and end up with an “our-way” that they both feel
good about. That’s true whether the issue is a
simple one, like what movie to to see on Saturday
night, or big issues like where to live, how to handle
money, and how to keep your sex life passionate.
4. Positivity: Each time you share a smile, laugh at
your partner’s jokes, agree with a comment your
partner said, express appreciation, thank your
partner for something, or express affection, you are
offering “drops” of positivity. The more drops you
give, the happier you both will be.